I Have A Lot Of Feelings About When We Collided

(no, this isn’t a dramatic love poem. it’s a book review/ramble, sorry)

If you didn’t guess I just finished reading a book. Specifically When We Collided by Emery Lord. And I have a lot of thoughts and feelings about it. Overall, I liked it, but it’s not going to become a must-have-the-physical-copy-not-just-the-ebook omg-I-will-recommend-this-to-everyone-know favourite. Trying to stay as spoiler free as possible, I’ll just sum up the story quickly – boy meets girl, love, mental illness on both sides (either firsthand or dealing with someone else’s), ending. I really, really liked the mental illness storyline, primarily because it felt incredibly realistic and accurate (Lord suffers from the same illness as the female protagonist, Vivi) and not at all patronising or like it was trying to gloss over anything. I liked Jonah’s (the male protagonist) mental illness link too, and Lord managed to make a possibly difficult to believe family situation totally believable – I don’t think I once had to suspend my imagination. Another part of the appeal was that it felt like all of Jonah’s decisions relating to his mum’s mental illnesses were realistic, even when they ended up being mistakes – it was refreshing that it wasn’t just perfect decision after perfect decision after perfect decision, because that doesn’t happen to anyone (except me, obvs).

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Howeverrr…

The love story annoyed me. Which isn’t the best thing to say, seeing as the book is billed as a love story. But Vivi as a character really annoyed me – in part due to her mental illness, she constantly seemed selfish. And that’s fine, that’s understandable and is part of what makes the book a convincing portrayal of mental illness. But what annoyed me was Jonah’s reaction (maybe it’s Jonah I’m annoyed with? Although other than that I love him) – even before he knew about her illness and just thought she was quirky, it felt to me like he let her trample all over him. Like yay for feminism and equally annoying characters for all genders and all that but it felt like he just let Vivi be flighty and keep changing plans and do everything to suit her. Maybe it’s just who I am that that annoys me or maybe that was intended to be seen as part of her mental illness but yeah, I wanted to shout at both of them at points. On another plus side though, the mental illness side and the love story right at the end (I’m a nice person so no spoilers) was so well written I nearly cried, and I never actually cry at books (except for All The Bright Places. That book broke me), I just think about how sad it all is.

So yeah, I wanted to get all that out of my system. How’s everyone doing in the blogging world since I disappeared a few months ago? Has anyone read When We Collided?

4 thoughts on “I Have A Lot Of Feelings About When We Collided

  1. Zayin Rome says:

    Maybe this comment is too late to notice but I’ll say what’s in my mind anyway. Read the book once but read the ending an extra time. I was really touched by the plot and how the story was going because somehow, I can relate. Reading the ending the 2nd time was when it made me cry, they have such a strong bond in it made me fell inlove with both the characters. Hard times in – hard times out. I wasn’t satisfied with it though especially the part where V decided to end it. I don’t know, maybe because I felt the sorrow J was feeling at the moment? And maybe have it end in a way they both stay for each other. I remembered a lot of memories like this in the past and maybe that’s what made me cry. It has a different approach to people who know a lover or friend who has mental illness (or so I believe it). Loved it anyway and even though they’re both just characters in a book, I hope they have a great and memorable life. This also goes to the readers who feels the same way I do.

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  2. Elm says:

    I’ve heard a lot of things about this book and I’m not sure whether I should read it or not… Hmm, once I’m done rereading Illuminae and some others I may give it a go! This review was great 🙂

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